There are times in life when emotional pain just feels overwhelming.

Yet, it is through our trials and pain that our gifts can emerge, and it is by overcoming temptation and troubles that we are made stronger and more valuable to the planet. At some point, we all will inevitably have to confront our past or pain, deal with it, learn from it, and allow it to reveal our gifts and essence to the world and ourselves. You can transform your pain into purpose.

Below are three steps to help you during the hardest moments in your life:

Step 1: Find Your Essence

The key to staying positive and progressing in life is discovering your essence. First you need to get in touch with the pain in your life. Then ask yourself these questions:

  • – Where in your body do you feel it?
  • – Where does it hurt?
  • – What are you willing to suffer for?
  • – What is your passion?

Write down your answers. Transfer your pain to the paper. Explore all your emotions about your pain and then get clear on what you want and your WHY (for transforming “pain” into something greater).

Step 2: Meditate or Pray Daily with Intention

Once you discover your essence, you need to establish the truth of your essence and connect deeply with yourself to know exactly who you are. Try to become aware and present to focus on solutions, NOT problems. Let your meditation and prayer remind and reinforce who you are, WHY you are, and drive you to truly be of service.

Step 3: Discover Your Purpose

This is the BIG question: How do you know if you’re living your life purpose? Discovering your purpose is what helps you: be creative, be true to yourself, and live life to the fullest. If you continue to struggle finding your purpose, we recommend finding a mentor. Find someone with passion whom you respect and ask him or her to mentor you. Together you should focus on making your life about the future, NOT the past.

If you master these three steps, you will have a much better chance at turning your toughest vulnerabilities into fuel for your greatest triumphs.